When People Judge Your Choices (Smoking, Alcohol, Food)

Having moved abroad since I was 15, I became really good at adapting. Reading the room. Blending in. Not making people uncomfortable. It’s a classic expat woman skill… and it’s also how people-pleasing sneaks in.

And when you’re good at adapting, you also become good at measuring yourself through other people’s reactions. So when I started making choices that were different and got spicy comments… the old me would have been shaken. Not because I doubted my choices. But because it triggered an old fear: maybe I don’t belong.

How to build self-trust as a woman abroad (when people don’t approve)

When you know yourself deeply, you stop needing other people to approve your life.

You can let them disagree. You can let them not get it. And you can still be at peace.

Because the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself.

When you look in the mirror and you like what you see—and you love the double chin, or the midlife pimple (thanks hormones)—then yeah… you care less about fitting into everyone else’s boxes.

And here’s the secret: when I started liking myself more, I didn’t become colder or more self-absorbed. I became calmer. Kinder. Less reactive. Because I wasn’t constantly scanning for approval. And when you’re not fighting for approval, you have so much more space to be present with others.

It’s a win-win situation.

If you’re a woman abroad and this resonates, hit reply and tell me: what’s one choice you’re making for you—even if people don’t get it?

What this has to do with my work ?

In my program, I’m not here to give you tips to become vegetarian. That’s a personal choice, darling.

But I am here to help you build that inner anchor.

Together, we work on:

• How to uncover the strengths you’ve been blind to

• How to break free from the patterns that sabotage you

• How to build self-trust (and stop doubting yourself)

So your choices stop being something you defend… and start being something you live.

If you’re a woman abroad who’s tired of adapting at the expense of yourself, DM me “Women Abroad Reset” and I’ll tell you if it’s the right fit.